“The Lord gives us friends to push us to our potential and enemies to push us beyond it.” – Robert Brault
Hello lovely readers. Today, I want to crave your indulgence in delving from our usual trajectory of motivation and inspiration and swim into the horizon of relationships.
Though, this will still charge you mentally.
I opted for this because I observed that relationships quickly fall into the abyss – even when we don’t want it to – because we fail to appreciate ourselves.
It is a conventional principle that we would know and meet people. And those we would know, have one or more roles to play in the formation and shaping of our life.
This principle, I think, prompted the Social Scientists to described man as a social animal.
However, to be a social animal, there lies some characters, qualities, and attributes underlying how we socialize and some inherent values dictating how we conjugate.
One of such values is to hold people in esteem; to understand people for whom they are, with a definite mindset, and not expecting perfection from anyone.
Our relationships will thrive and be admired if we base it foundations on common aspirations, values, and mutual interest.
Most people, when they meet others, instead of looking for values and impact they can add to them, they start exhibiting the attitudes of a predator.
Gossiping about others, envious of their progress, and always deploy deceptive theatrics in engagement with others I’d predatory.
Dalai Lamai says, “The best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.’’
One of the things we should understand in a relationship is that every building has a life span, and this is the same for every relationship.
Everyone who comes into your life has a purpose to fulfill. When their time lapses, there is nothing we can do to keep them.
It is worrisome that most relationships end in a disruptive trial!
Bob Marley excellently put it smartly in one of his lyrics, “The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
Instead of allowing people to cause you sufferings, let their behaviors or impressions about you caused you to succeed, break the ground and push you to transcend your limits! Your glory would not manifest if you are groaning and grumbling in pain. It will only manifest if you are growing through the trail.
While I am using this moment to reflect on my relationships with people, it is my pleasure to tell you that I am gratifying God through them. Despite that some cannot last as we desired, I have been through many, which most of them worth reviewing through the lens of gratitude. Those who treat you badly are never your enemy. They are your helpers, who helped you forge the strengths lying in you which you are not aware of.
To you all, thank you for helping me discover myself, to leap this high! My teachers, relatives, colleagues, friends, acquaintances, mentors, and protégés, you add meaning to my world! You all deserve accolades for nurturing me to be exhibiting the values you all symbolize and personifies. With you by my side, life never stops getting better.
I hope you all can accept my sincere and warm gratitude. I urge you to also find someone you can appreciate for their roles in helping you fine-tune your purpose, discovering your essence in life, and never let you relent in the pursuit of your dream.
SULYMAN, Sodeeq Abdulakeem is a Librarian, Writer who co-authored the book “Responsible Living: Live to Fulfill Your Potential.”