“Every event happens for a special purpose. Every problem is a special challenge from which we can learn and prosper to new heights of achievement. Every moment is perfect in nature, whether you realize it or not.” – Robin Sharma
In life, nature has its ways of interfering in what we do.
So, when the unexpected happens, it is not solely targeted at us to make us craft a negative definition or impression about ourselves or about life.
It is simply targeted at testing the weight of our resolve towards our life purposes.
Our lives depend on decisions and not conditions. The key is in our decisions, not our condition,” Gbenga Adebambo affirmed.
My observations in the past few years shows that, there are two major ways we deal with whatever happens to us in life – reactive or responsive.
You may be wondering why two words with synonymous meaning are used to raise an argument.
Responsive holds the elements of answering, responding, replying or responsibility.
We have all being in situations where we have no choice than to be reactive.
But, if you wants to libe to your fullest potential, being responsive is the best choice.
Being reactive means you are struggling to conform with stimulus, while being responsive means you are giving to life what you want, you are leading the life of your choice.
You shouldn’t be living without having a clear plan, deliberate choices and tasteful options. These things force you to concentrate on what matters to your life.
The life mediocre individual wants to live is too difficult to access; because mediocre individuals are reactive.
It is indisputable that, before you can reach the status of your destiny, you must have faced different twists and turns, which are known as fates.
However, if you keep accepting those fates as predestined events that you cannot change, you would not be able to unleash the power you have to create your destiny.
G. K. Chesterton noted that “I do not believe in a fate that falls on men however they act; but I do believe in a fate that falls on them unless they act.”
Unless you act on the situations that you find unpleasant, you can’t be responsive in life.
The best way to do this is to provide answers to life stem from template you have designed for your life.
If this becomes your style of living, it will clear your pathway from any arising deficit.
“When experience and originality meet energy, imagination and unrestrained ideation,” says Mouftah Baba-Ahmed.
American Research Agency would have been reactive, if the Internet was not evolved to make them responsive to the emerging needs of sharing information during the Second World War.
“There Was a Country” would not have been written by Chinua Achebe, if the iconic writer had chosen not to share to Nigerians and the world, what transpired during the Nigerian Civil War of 1967 – 1970.
There won’t be Infinix or Tecno phones in the Nigerian market, if the founder of Slots System had returned his head to the shell when his idea was initially rejected by the Tecno and Infinix phones manufacturers.
Making economic downturns or pandemic the reason for you not to fashion your life means you are reactive.
For you to be responsive in life, you must always see everything you have been through as a chapter.
How you want it written is based on the character you devised from it, the victories you have visualised through your defeats and the answers you have chosen to give to the questions life poses to you.
Life revolves around same old story. Make your own story anew by crafting it the way you want it to be told.
SULYMAN Sodeeq Abdulakeem is a Librarian, Writer who co-authored the book “Responsible Living: Live to Fulfill Your Potential.“