The statement love never fails, but people do is a simple clear statement. In the Christian Bible, in a letter to the Corinthians, the apostle Paul says,
“Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love avengeth not itself; is not puffed up. Love doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not his own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil. Love rejoices not in iniquity, it rejoices in the truth; love bearth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Love never fails.”
One of the major propellers of havoc in relationships is absenteeism (the lack of paying attention and not listening). Perhaps the most important area of mutual compatibility has to do with listening. It is only when two people take time to listen closely and carefully to each other when they speak that the lines of communication stay open, and this is when love and harmony continue in the relationship.
Here are four simple discipline of effective listening:
- Listen attentively
- Think before you reply
- Ask for clarification
- Always have good feedback to give
Most importantly, a happy, loving marriage requires that you see your spouse as your best friend. One of the profound characteristics of best friends is time and shoulder. Best friends will always find time to be together, they will always provide a shoulder to lean on. When you see your spouse as your best friend and treat him or her as such, you can create a loving relationship that lasts all the days of your lives.
That does mean you can’t go wrong. Constantly looking back at the beginning, and carefully tracking events that had unfolded to identify the good times and the bad, will keep your relationship in shape.
To keep your relationship happy, harmonious and growing in love, you must be willing to change in response to changing circumstances such as having children, getting a more demanding job or career, growing old etc.
You should sit down with your spouse and later with your children to ask for your rating as a husband, wife and or a father/mother. Having the courage to ask such a question will give you free hint on how your loved ones feel about you. You’ll get continual guidance on how you can modify and adjust your behaviour to maintain a higher level of harmony, happiness and love with your spouse and other members of your family.
Love never fails, only people do. Keep your love alive.